Learning from Prince: Live Boldly & Courageously

prince_at_coachellaPrince died yesterday and I am shocked and saddened along with the rest of the world. It is impossible to adequately describe Prince using words. He is a musical genius, he is an icon, he is bold, he is outspoken, he is mysterious, he lived courageously. As heartfelt reflections on the impact that Prince had on so many people’s lives are shared and our collective mourning begins, my attention is drawn to the lessons that we can learn from the inspiring way that Prince lived. My hope is that in addition to honoring him with memories and celebrating his music, we will also honor Prince by living boldly and courageously just as he did. Below are quotes from Prince and lessons from him that we can apply to our own lives. Continue reading

Advertisements

Confirmation: Lessons about Sexual Harassment from Anita Hill’s Story

I felt emotionally distressed while watching Confirmation, which re-tells the story of the hearing on Anita Hill’s accusations that Clarence Thomas sexually harassed her. I was angered while watching the all-white, all male, senate judiciary committee imply that Hill’s story was untrue because she did not express a formal complaint sooner. I cringed at seeing black women protesting Anita Hill because we have been socialized to protect and support our black men, even at the cost of the well being of ourselves and our sisters. I was frustrated with the implication that because some people had positive experiences with Clarence Thomas, this meant that there was no way he could do something harmful. Overall, I was saddened as I was reminded of how common it is for sexual harassment to be dismissed as insignificant and how often we as women are forced to grin and bear it in order to keep our jobs, our reputations, and ourselves safe. Continue reading

Black Women & Depression: Signs & Strategies

Wild_hairThe last time I was really depressed was in response to a break up; unexpected heartbreak sent me into a depressive episode that took a few months to pass. I was crying frequently, my appetite was low and I started to lose weight, I’m usually an outgoing and sociable person but I didn’t want to spend time with my friends, my energy and mood were low, and I felt sad most of the time.

Sometimes depression comes in response to a difficult experience like a break up, the loss of a friendship, or a loved one passing away. Other times, depression emerges unexpectedly and without a clear trigger. No matter what prompts depression, it seems to roll in like a heavy thundercloud, weighing on us, making the air thick and hard to move through, blocking out the sun and warmth, and causing us to question what life was like without this cloud of depression and to wonder whether whether this storm will ever pass. Continue reading