Tell me if this sounds like a typical date night for you…
You’re excited because the dinner party you’ve been planning for weeks is finally here. You’re either hosting at your house and have planned the perfect menu or you’re meeting your friends out at a new swanky restaurant. Either way, you know it’s going to be fabulous and you’ve got the perfect outfit picked out for the occasion.
You love getting all of your friends together to celebrate someone’s birthday, uplift someone’s spirits, or just have fun with your friends. You connect deeply with your friends and you’re always aware of what’s going on in their lives. You know when someone is struggling to get over a breakup and you make sure to take them out to help them cope. You know when someone is burned out at their job and you’re quick to plan a relaxing self-care date. You never forget a friend’s birthday and make sure some sort of celebration is planned for them.
You are the perfect host for a group date night AND sometimes you want a night that’s all about you
You are a deeply caring person and give so much to other people and you’re starting to want a night that’s just for you. Even though you’re not sure when you’d find the time, you’re longing for an evening that’s not about hosting and socializing but is about relaxing, reflecting and just being with yourself.
It might be a little hard to imagine a date night that’s solely focused on you. You’ve been giving and planning things for everyone else in your life that it might be hard to know exactly what you’d want to do. Well keep reading because below you’ll find the recipe to plan the solo date night of your dreams.
Here’s the recipe for planning a date night that’s ALL about you
Step 1: Figure out what type of solo date night you want.
Do you want a night at home where you have a luxurious bath with a fancy bath bomb, your favorite candles burning and maybe even sexy music playing? Do you want a spa day? Or to visit that museum exhibit you’ve been wanting to check out but none of your friends have agreed to go to? Dream big because the sky’s the limit! Here’s an episode of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast to help you with this first step: Episode 15: How to Stop Holding Back and Start Believing in Yourself.
Step 2: Remind yourself that you are worth the effort.
You are so used to giving to other people that planning a night that’s all about you might feel uncomfortable. I want you to remember that you are worthy of an amazing date night. Any discomfort you might feel as you focus on yourself is worth the awesome experience you’ll have on the date. If you’re still not sure you’re worthy of having a fun night all to yourself, check out episode 14 of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast: You Are Worthy of Joy. If you’ve been waiting for someone else to take you on a fabulous date, check out episode 9: The Key to Healthy Romantic Relationships: Believe You Are Worthy.
Step 3: Set healthy boundaries around your date night time.
Since you’re so used to giving to others and responding anytime someone calls and asks for your help, you’ll need to set good boundaries around the time you carve out for yourself. It’s important to remember that setting boundaries isn’t mean and taking time for you will fill you up so you can give to other people. Check out episode 10 of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast on setting healthy boundaries.
Step 4: Plan the date!
Now that you know what you want to do for yourself, you know you’re worthy of taking time for yourself, and you know how to set the boundaries to protect that time, it’s time to plan your perfect date. Set aside some time this week to put your plan together and start making reservations or ordering that candle and bath bomb combo you’ve been eyeing for a while. Then set a time and put the date in your calendar and get ready for the solo date of your dreams!
Step 5: Step 5: Execute the Date
Now is the time to execute the date you’ve planned for yourself. Make sure you give yourself plenty of time to get ready so you don’t feel rushed. Put your phone on “do not disturb” so you can have some peace and quiet. Maybe even turn off email and news notifications so you don’t have random alerts interrupting your evening. Then relax and enjoy everything you’ve planned for yourself.
Make sure to pay attention to how you feel on your date; are you feeling relaxed, happy, at peace? Are you having a hard time enjoying your time with yourself and find that you’re worrying about things? All of this is just good information that will help you on the path to building a healthy relationship with yourself (more on that later 😉).