You’re More Responsible Than You Think
— EPISODE 34 —
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Season 3 of Unconditionally Worthy Podcast is here and we’re kicking it off by talking about responsibility and empowerment.
As I wrap up my first full year as an entrepreneur and a podcaster, I want to reflect upon the insights I’ve gained and share them with you.
After spending so many years in academia and working at universities, I never would have guessed that I could thrive as an entrepreneur. Turns out, because I’m so motivated, I can get work done and make things happen in a way that actually feels good for me. I’ve realized that my last job wasn't supporting my mental health like it was supporting me financially. So, I’m grateful that I took that leap of faith, listened to my body and my intuition, and made that transition.
Now, I’m no longer affiliated with a university or have important faculty meetings to go to… but I’m no less worthy of success, abundance, having a career I love, and passion projects to work on. Now, I work less than I did before, I make more money, I’m happier, and I’m using my gifts in a way that’s more aligned with how I’m meant to serve the world!
The journey hasn’t been perfect, though. In the first few months of working for myself, I found that I was recreating similar levels of stress, urgency, and chaotic energy that I had become frustrated with at my last job. Even though I was taking a different path and I was my own boss, I was setting unreasonable deadlines and expectations, rushing, and then expecting myself to do things perfectly the first time around. I wasn’t giving myself the space, time, or ease that I truly wanted and needed from this career shift.
The blessing that came from this is that I recognized this unhealthy dynamic and I also recognized that I could change it. There was no one else I could blame but myself. When we work for ourselves with little to no other people, we’re the only ones responsible for our workplace dynamic and for changes that need to be made. That can be uncomfortable, but it can also be extremely empowering.
“When you realize how you’re responsible, that is a point of empowerment because what you are responsible for, you have the power to change.”
Most of us have more responsibility over our experiences than we’d like to admit.
It’s now clear to me that the patterns I had of overworking myself were grounded in me trying to prove my worth when I was younger. I developed these patterns from a space of perfectionism and believing that productivity equaled worthiness. Even though I had done the work to disconnect my sense of worthiness from over-productivity, the patterns stayed with me until I started taking FULL responsibility for my life.
Here’s my challenge for you…
Think about a dynamic or a pattern in your life that you don’t like and that you’ve been blaming on other people. It could be a dynamic or pattern in your work life, your romantic relationships, your friendships, etc. Then, consider how you might be (at least partially) responsible for this dynamic that you’re unhappy with. How might you be contributing to this pattern in an unhelpful way? How might you be perpetuating it?
Don’t blame yourself. Simply see what aspects of it you can take responsibility for. When you do that, you can be empowered to change it.
Let’s use our self-worth as a foundation for growing, developing, and evolving so that when we know better, we do better.
Do you struggle with blaming others or blaming yourself for your circumstances?
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