Lessons from the Waiting Room

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Have you ever been left waiting for what you wanted? Maybe it was waiting for a promotion, waiting for love, waiting for a baby. I think we all go through waiting periods in our lives and if you’re anything like me, it can be hard to wait. 

I want you to know that you’re not alone in your waiting. At some point this summer (I’m not sure exactly when), I got put in a metaphorical waiting room. 

I didn’t know that I was being put in a waiting room and just like my toddler does when we ask her to do something she doesn’t want to do, I went kicking and screaming. 

In this episode of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast, I’m sharing about my experience struggling with and eventually accepting and learning from a waiting period in my life. This episode will help you think constructively about your own times of waiting so that they can be transformative in your life. 


Trying to Get Out of the Waiting Room

I did my best to get out of the waiting room and thought, maybe I’ll call this person, or reach out to that person. Maybe I’ll create this workshop or do that. I did everything I could think of to get out of the waiting room.  

At first, the waiting room felt like a punishment. Like I had been put in time out for doing something wrong. I felt like I had missed something along the way or failed to do something along the way and that’s why I was stuck in a place where it felt like nothing was happening. 

It took me a while, and a few conversations with dear friends to realize that I was not being punished. I had not lost my gifts, it wasn’t that no one ever wanted me to speak to them again, it was that I was meant to be in a period of waiting, for now. 

Accepting My Time of Waiting 

Through talking to one of my friends, I realized that this wasn’t a coincidence and it dawned on me that the experience of delay, of waiting, of being still, IS the lesson. 

There was a reason that none of the projects or opportunities I’d pursued are coming to fruition. There was a reason that I didn’t have a clear sense of direction of what is next for my business. There was a reason that I had not been given the green light on anything. All of this was happening because my assignment was to be still, to wait, to rest.

This may be one of my hardest assignments yet. 

A little more about me: I don’t like waiting. I am comfortable with busyness, with rushing, with a full calendar. And while I’ve gotten better, slowness, stillness, quiet, open space is still a place where I don’t feel completely comfortable. 

I guess it’s no surprise that this is the lesson I have been assigned. That this waiting period is a necessary part of my preparation for the next level.

Lessons from the Waiting Room

I’ve been reflecting on the lessons I’m taking from the waiting room and hope that sharing these lessons with you will support you on your journey. So here are some of my top lessons from my metaphorical waiting room: 

  • Be still 

  • Rest

  • Be faithful in the small things 

  • Return to your values and your purpose

  • Slow down to appreciate what’s here now

  • Prepare your mind, body, and spirit for the next assignment

  • This waiting period is a time for recalibration, re-centering, re-focusing on what I’m in the world to do. 

If you are in a period of waiting here are some questions to reflect on and journal about. I’ve found them helpful and hope you will too:

  • What invitations are you receiving during this time?

  • What fears are arising in this time of waiting?

  • What are your patterns/behaviors when you’re scared?

  • What do you know to be true?

After months of struggling to get out of the waiting room, I finally settled in, got comfortable and accepted that this is where I would be for a while. Meetings rescheduled, no problem. Silence in response to a proposal, that’s fine. I wasn’t resigned, I was committed to leaning into this assignment to wait even though it was hard for me. 

Then, as it tends to happen, soon after I fully accepted and stopped struggling against my time in the waiting room, things started to shift. Organizations started to reach out again about speaking opportunities. Ideas and creative energy started to flow through me again. 

I’m happy to share that I think my time in the waiting room is coming to an end and I’m excited about something I feel inspired to create. I’ll be talking more about that in the next episode. 

Just so that I don’t leave you hanging, what I’ll be offering is a coaching program is for high achieving professional Black women who are in their 30s and 40s who have accomplished a lot in life but are still struggling with romantic relationships (settling for situationships and poor treatment, experiencing anxiety with dating and relationships, self-sabotaging when you find love, have given up on the possibility of finding a loving partnership). 

If this sounds like you send me an email dradia@dradiagooden.com or DM me on IG or LinkedIn and I’ll tell you more about it!

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