Here’s What I Do When I’m Triggered
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[00:00:00] Navigating a trigger, right? Helps you to feel less alone. When you get triggered. It helps you to know that triggers don't make you unworthy and that when you know your worth and when you know the skills and the tools to navigate triggers life becomes so much easier.
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Welcome to the Unconditionally Worthy Podcast. In this podcast, I will guide you on your journey to connect with the true source of your self-worth. Each week we'll discuss barriers to unconditional self-worth, the connection between self-worth and relationships, self-worth practices you can apply to your life. And how to use self-worth as a foundation for living courageously. I'm your host, Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist, dance enthusiast, and a dark chocolate lover who believes deeply that you are worthy unconditionally.
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Hello and welcome to the final episode of Season 5 of the Unconditionally Worthy Podcast. It is a little hard to believe that we are closing out season 5. We started the podcast in February 2021, and so we have been going strong now for over two years. We are wrapping up the fifth season in end of May 2023. And so I just want to thank you all for rocking with me, for listening, for sharing the podcast. It is always amazing to hear the impact it has and to know that people from around the world are listening. And so, yeah, I'm just really grateful and excited to bring you this final episode of the season. It's a solo episode. We're trying to make sure to have three to four solo episodes over the course of each season, intermixed with the interviews that I have with the incredible guests that come on the show.
And so, excited to wrap it up with a solo episode. I'm recording this in late April, so about a month before you're listening to it. But when you're listening to the episode, it'll be about a week before my 38th birthday. Sometimes I forget how old I am, which I feel is a function of getting older and not being at a milestone birthday. It's I don't know how old I'm, am I 37? am I 38? I'm somewhere in there. So anyway, I am turning 38 on June 6th. That's my birthday. And I'm excited to celebrate this year because last year, to be honest, was probably one of the hardest birthdays I ever had on my birthday on June. So first of all, we had a newborn. Amani had been born two and a half, three weeks earlier on the day of my birthday, we had her first appointment with the Sickle cell clinic and were confirmed for sure that she had sickle cell.
So that was really the news that I was sitting with, that my daughter had sickle cell on my birthday. So there really was no celebration. Like we got takeout from a nice-ish restaurant like that was it. So it was a little sad. And then the year before I was doing a lot of wedding stuff, pre-wedding stuff. So I was in LA for my bachelorette weekend. So it was a great celebratory weekend that had me centered and I almost forgot that it was my birthday. So we were out to dinner and they brought a piece of cake and it said Happy birthday. And I was oh, that must be a mistake. Then I was like my birthday's tomorrow. So, the year before that it was a great birthday and I still almost forgot it was my birthday.
So I'm excited this year to like celebrate me and like just have something that is about me for my birthday and not be focused on something else. So anyway, that was a long aside, but my birthday's coming up June 6th. Feel free to give me a shout-out. Send me a happy birthday message. I'd love that. And I wanted to talk to you all today about kind of getting triggered, right? And to be honest with you, that I'm still human and I still get triggered sometimes, right? So, I think what I try to balance when I talk about self-worth and claiming our worth is I want you all to know that the truth is that life is so much better when you know you're worthy. Like that has certainly been the truth for me, the case for me, my life feels so much better, right?
I am so much less anxious. I experience so much more abundance. I work less, I trust myself more, right? Like I experience more joy and happiness and more connection. Those things are all true. And knowing that I'm worthy doesn't mean that I'm not human, doesn't mean that I'm not [00:05:00] hurt sometimes and disappointed sometimes, and even triggered sometimes. And so, the self-worth journey is not about sort of creating this perfect looking life or this life that just like isn't life, right? Doesn't have challenges or ups and downs. It's about creating a life with more joy and more connection and more alignment, more vibrancy. And it's also about having the tools and the practices and knowing the truth so that when life is challenging, you know how to show up to that challenge. You know how to show up for and with yourself, right?
That you're not bold over by the challenges of life because you don't know that you're worthy or you don't have the tools and the skills. And so today I'm going to share with you about a time that I was triggered, in the last couple of months and how I responded. And my hope is that this is helpful, both in giving you hope for what it can look like to move through triggers, and also sharing some of the tools and strategies and the reality that I was still a human, right? And I still get triggered. So I'm going to start this little story last summer. So last summer, Beyonce's album Renaissance came out, I think it came out in July. And I remember listening to it, I don't buy albums very often anymore. I just listen to Spotify, whatever. But I bought this album and I remember listening to it and feeling like ugh, like a breath of fresh air.
Like I was coming alive again, right? And you all, if you've been listening to the podcast, you heard the story of the traumatic delivery of Amani. And that really was hard, right? That left me with a long-ish road to recovery, right? First couple of days I couldn't really walk on my own and I was regaining my strength. And then on top of that, we were sort of navigating life as new parents with a newborn who's so fragile and learning that she had sickle cell and there's still a pandemic going. And so what that meant was we really didn't go out very much. Like we took some walks, right? Like around our neighborhood, but both my husband and I are extroverts. We like to be out and about. We love enjoying summertime shine, which is a real thing. If you have not been to Chicago in the summer, I highly recommend it.
But there are festivals and you go and sit outside and you eat and you try new restaurants, you go to drinks on the rooftop, and there's just so many fun things that happen and we really just didn't do any of that, right? We really did very, very little. And even when we did go out, like we're still adjusting to have a newborn, and we're like is she okay? And right? So it was just a lot. And I felt like when I listened to Renaissance, it was just like urg, right? I inhaled and exhaled deeply, and I just felt like it was giving me life. And I love the album so much. And I actually, I've always sort of been impressed by Beyonce, liked her music, but I've never like stand for her, right? I haven't been one of those fans go to all the concerts.
That hasn't been me. And I've never been to a Beyonce concert, even though I've heard they're amazing. And I listened to that album and I was like I'm going to this concert, like I don't care how much it's, I don't care how much money I have to pay. Whatever the Renaissance tour concert, whatever concert Beyonce decides to do, I will be there. And I know it's going to be expensive. I know it's going to cost me a pretty penny. I know I'm going to need to gather my coins, but I'm going to be there. I just made that decision and I knew that I was going to be there. Okay? So fast forward, right? Fast forward to when did the tickets come out? I think it was late January, early February.
And I was like okay, right? Like, get on the waiting list, like try to get the tickets right? So then there was all this stuff. If you weren't in the mix around getting tickets, it was a big thing, right? Like you had to get on the waiting list and were you going to get access? And were the tickets going to sell out before you got access? And what were the prices going to be? There was all this stuff. So anyway, I'm on the waiting list, I'm like waiting. I didn't get the first-round access, I didn't get the, so I'm trying to figure this out. And then I realized because a friend tells me hey, like basically tells me tickets are on sale. I'm oh my gosh, ok. So I rush, I'm like let me look at these tickets, right?
So I'm looking at the tickets and then I'm like okay, I got to find someone to go with. Now maybe I should have tried to find my crew or figure out who I was going to go with first. But I had this group of friends who we had been sort of texting about it, right? We had been texting about when the tickets were on sale. And so I sort of felt okay, there's going to be some people from this group, [00:10:00] there's going to be some seven or eight of us. There's going to be some people from this group who like want to go together. So I text them and I'm hey, tickets are on sale, tickets are available, kind of who's in? And then there were crickets, right? Do you know that feeling of checking your phone and then being like is my phone working?
Is it put it on airplane mode, take it off airplane mode. is there service? Is it working? Nothing's coming through. Did people get my texts? I don't know, right? That reminds me of the days when I was like dating and he's not texting me back and is my phone working, right? So it's like crickets and I start to feel triggered, right? Starts to be okay, nobody's responding. And then there's also this time pressure of are these tickets going to sell out. If I wait for people, how long can I wait to hear back from people before these tickets sell out? Before I need to just like make sure that I get my tickets. So I text this first group crickets. Then eventually people start sort of responding and it's oh, I made plans to go with somebody else, or I'm going somewhere else, or I'm not going, right?
And so I start to basically get these nos and get this sense of other people have made plans without me to go to the concert, right? So then I start feeling excluded, and then I see one of my friends who lives out of town post oh, that she like got tickets in Chicago or something. And I'm like what the heck? I'm like why didn't you tell me that you were going to come to Chicago and go to the concert you didn't tell me. So again, another I feel excluded, then I text a couple more friends and one person's like oh, actually I'm getting tickets to the UK and other friend's like oh, I'm going to go with my boyfriend, but I don't know what I'm doing. Excluded. So I am feeling excluded and I am feeling triggered.
A long time trigger for me is feeling excluded. So I feel the anxiety starting in my chest, like the tightness. I notice my mind start to be like does anybody like me? I mean does everybody have plans to go to the concert without me? And does anybody even like me? And am I going to have to go alone? And so this really triggered a longstanding sort of wound of mine, right? Throughout my life I have felt left out, right? Starting from when I was a kid and I wasn't invited to parties or I wasn't part of the cool group and I went to an elementary middle school of there would be like 13 people in my class, right? Or 20 people and I would be left out, right? So it's like what did not feel good? And it just really brought me back to those same feelings of being left out, being on the outside, even in my family, right?
I grew up with my parents and I would still even sometimes feel left out in my family because my parents are a really strong unit and we didn't really have a family culture of we do these family things together and this is our stuff, right? It's not that I was always excluded, but I definitely felt that way. And so all of these feelings of being left out of being not included, sort of not being prioritized to be there, feeling like I often felt like if I was there, people were like cool, Adia is here, right? Great not like yays Adia is here, but cool, sure be here, that's fine. But if I wasn't there, it felt like people didn't notice or people didn't care, right? That is what I have experienced or at least made up in my head was going on.
And were there actual experiences of being excluded? Yes. Right? I definitely had actual experiences of being excluded. Was I generating stories about being unworthy and being unlovable and being excluded and being on the outside? Yes, absolutely, right? So some of it was reality and some of it was made up in my head and probably there was made up in my head than was in reality. But all of this, this is a longtime wound of mine and I have worked through it in therapy. I have worked through it on my self-worth journey. And I know that the truth is that people do love me and people do want to be around me. Am I everybody's favorite? No, I probably am not. And that's okay, right? I'm still worthy, even though I am not the friend who people are like, Adia has to be there, right?
That's a reality that I have come to terms with. It's still a little painful, but I've come to terms with it, right? And I know that it doesn't make me unworthy. But in this moment, right, in that moment when I am texting my friends and I really want to go to this concert and I am desperately trying to find someone to go to this concert with me, I am feeling triggered. I am feeling like my 12-year-old self who didn't get invited to the party. I am feeling hurt, I am feeling excluded, [00:15:00] I am not feeling good, right? Can you relate?
Can you relate to the experience of being triggered? It's almost like you sort of like bump into it. It's like you didn't know it was coming. All I want to do is go see Beyonce, but suddenly I am triggered. And that's how these things often happen. And for you, you may be similar to me feeling on the outside, feeling excluded. It may be rejection, it may be making a mistake or feeling embarrassed, you know? I was talking to one of my friends and we were talking about, she was yep, I'm getting triggered again. She gets triggered when she applies for things, right? Like that triggers it in her. And it may be that for you, right? It could be any number of things that you might be triggered by.
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You know, the thing about triggers is that they're tricky, right? Even though we might know intellectually okay, this doesn't make sense anymore, or I'm not going to be rejected, or I know I have people who love me, or I know that this is not make or break for my life, even though we may know that is true, we can still be triggered. And I say this in part because it is so important to have compassion for ourselves around being triggered, right? What's not helpful is to be triggered and then to beat yourself up. Why are you still triggered by this? I thought you were over this. I thought you were healed. I thought you were whatever. That is not helpful. What is helpful is to say, oh, oh baby, oh, there it is again. Hmm. There's that trigger again, right?
And for me, as you've heard me talk about on this podcast, for me, that looks oh, seeing little Adia and being oh, come here. Oh gosh, you weren't invited. You feel like you were excluded. Come here. It's okay. I got you, I got you. Worse comes to worst. We are going to this concert, we might be by ourselves, but we're going, and that's okay, right? I want to go with you, right? I know you're fun. I know you're going to have a blast at this concert. I want to go with you, right? That's the kind of energy that we need to bring to ourselves and show to ourselves when we are feeling triggered. So I'm sharing this because when you know you're worthy, you're still human and you still may get triggered, but the difference is that you won't get lost in that triggered state, right?
So even though I was triggered, I didn't go down a rabbit hole of feeling like I'm the worst person ever. I really don't have any friends. Nobody likes me. I mean, I will be honest and say that I did. I did say to my husband, do I have friends? And even though I know that I have friends, like obviously I had people that I could text, right? Like to go to the concert, I needed some reassurance in that moment, and that was okay. But I knew, right? Deep down, I knew that I was worthy and I didn't beat myself up about it. I didn't beat myself up about being triggered. I didn't sort of berate myself for not having a go-to person that was definitely going to go to the concert with me, right? I just let myself move through it without beating myself up.
And that is the difference. When you know you're worthy, first of all, you're grounded in the truth of who you are. And even if it [00:20:00] feels a little shaky or you're not feeling good or you're not getting that affirmation from the outside world, you don't question that truth. And other thing is that you have the tools and the practices to help you move through it. So what did I do? What did I do when I was triggered? Here's how I responded. First, I acknowledged how I was feeling. I acknowledged that I was feeling excluded. I acknowledged that I was feeling left out. I acknowledged that I was feeling triggered. The second is I shared with my husband how I was feeling, and I sought some reassurance and encouragement. I did say I have friends, right? And I shared that I was feeling left out and I was feeling bad.
And even though on one level I knew that people not texting me right back, which normally, like I don't need people to text me back. In fact, I'm not great with texting and I'm not the best at texting other people right back. So I give people a lot of grace with that, even though I know that I just sought some reassurance and sought some, my husband being no, like you're good, right? I love you, people love you, you have friends, like you're good. And sometimes that's what we need, right? We need when we are having trouble accessing the truth of who we are, that we are worthy and wonderful and lovable. We need other people in our corner as a friend, a family member, a partner to remind us of this truth when we are having more trouble accessing it.
The other thing is, I didn't let myself make up negative stories about me or my friends, right? I didn't go down a rabbit hole of saying I'm the worst. Nobody likes me, nobody thinks I'm fun. Like I just didn't do all of that. I'm not worthy. I'm not, I didn't do all that. I didn't let my mind go there. I also didn't make up negative stories about my friends. I didn't make up stories that they don't like me, that they think I'm awful, that they secretly hate me. I didn't make up stories about them being bad, being bad friends, I didn't do any of that. I managed my mind, right? So I didn't let myself go down those rabbit holes, which then just makes it worse, right? I reminded myself of the truth. I have friends, I have friends who like and love me.
And that just because people were not available or had made other plans to see Beyonce does not mean that I do not have any friends. I also practiced self-compassion, right? I offered myself kindness and encouragement. I reminded myself that I am lovable, that people do like me, that I do have friends, that I like me and I like me and I love me, right? I offered myself compassion. I took myself through the same compassion exercise that I recommend to you, that I recommend to my coaching clients because it is so effective in soothing ourselves and calming down our nervous system so that we can make a choice and decide what we want to do instead of reacting.
The other thing I did is I was still, right? I was talking with my husband and I made a decision, okay, if I don't hear from anyone by this time of the day, I'm going to buy these tickets. Because I am not going to let myself miss out on experience that I know that I want because people are being slower to respond, whatever. So I'm going to buy tickets by this time today, right? But until then, I'm going to be still, I'm not going to start texting. I can't believe anybody. Nobody wants to go to this concert with me. You aren't good friends.
I'm not going to say, well, I'm just not going to go then, I'm not going to do any of that. I'm going to be still, I'm going to breathe and I'm going to be still, and I'm going to comfort myself so that I don't make a reactive decision that then ruins what I want in the first place. So I got reassurance, I breath, I offer myself compassion. I practice stillness, like not doing anything. And then the feelings of being excluded passed, text messages came in and I came up with a plan, right? I found out where my friend who was coming in to see the concert out of town, I found out where she was sitting. I decided to buy tickets as close to her as possible. I decided to buy two tickets, right? I talked with my husband, we made a plan. I was going to buy two tickets as close as possible to my friend who was coming in from out of town with her cousin to see the show.
And then I was going to find somebody to go with me, right? I was going to look for a friend, find a friend who was going to take the time pressure off, let people think about it, let people respond. And then worse came to worse if I couldn't find a friend, I would sell the ticket and I would be going to the concert by myself, but I'd be close to my friend so I could share the experience. So I made that plan and in the end, it all worked out. It all worked out.
[00:25:00] It took a couple of weeks and patience is something I'm continuing to work on. And it's not right there that I'm it's not going to happen sometimes, right? It took a couple of weeks and it worked out. One of my good friends from college who is also really good friends with my other friend from college who's coming to Chicago to see the show with her cousin, she agreed to go. So we are going to sit together and we are sitting two rows behind our other friend and her cousin and it is all going to work out.
But I was able to make that work because I paused because I offered myself compassion because I didn't get lost in a rabbit hole of I'm unworthy because I didn't hide and shrink and say, well then I'm just not going to the concert. And because I committed to my decision, which is that I'm going to this concert and I hope to go with my friends, but if not, I am still showing up for myself and I'm still showing up for this concert, which I know is going to give me life and I know is going to be amazing, but knowing that I am worthy helped me to do that, right? It doesn't mean that life is perfect, it doesn't mean that I wasn't triggered, but it means that I knew how to move through that trigger to still get to the result that I want, which is going to the concert, right?
When you show up for yourself and you know that you're worthy, that makes it easier to make aligned choices and create the reality that you want for yourself, even if it doesn't seem immediately possible. So you may be thinking, Adia, I want to be on this train, if I'm triggered, I know how to handle it. I remind myself of the truth of who I am and I navigate challenges train. Like I want to be on that. So I have good news and bad news. Bad news is that my Unconditionally Worthy Group Coaching Program, which is really what helps you to get to a place where you know you are unconditionally worthy and gives you all the tools that I am talking about plus more the next cohort does not start until September, right? So I have a cohort-based model.
I enroll people. I do three cohorts a year. Basically, you just missed the last cohort, the spring cohort. That's okay though because there are two pieces of good news. One, the next cohort is in September. So now is the time to start thinking about that and planning for that. If you are interested in joining, there's only 10 spots available and it's amazing. So that's the good news. The other piece of good news is that I actually have another program called Date Yourself: 4 Weeks to a Healthy Relationship with You. And this program is a course that I designed to help you get started on your self-worth journey and you can do it on your own time. And what it does is it guides you step by step in releasing self-criticism, right? Triggers can really set our inner critics off.
Usually when we feel triggered, that gets our inner critic rearing, what's wrong with you? Why didn't you do this? You should have done that. Nobody likes you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. So I was able to avoid going down that type of rabbit hole because I have a relationship with my inner critic where I can tell it to sit down in a corner and be quiet and it does not run my life, right? So that's what this program helps you do. Release your self-criticism so that when you're triggered, you're not then running down a rabbit hole and beating yourself up. It also helps you to practice and integrate self-compassion into your life so that you know how to be kind and comforting and compassionate to yourself just like I was. So you can soothe yourself and then instead of reacting, you can respond to whatever's happening.
And then lastly, this program helps you to tune into yourself so that you know how to honor your body, your mind, and your spirit through true sustainable self-care. Being able to tune into myself is what helped me to decide to prioritize going to see Beyonce in the first place to decide that, yes, this is going to be worth my time, energy, and money. And even if nobody can go with me, I know deep down that this is going to replenish my soul and my spirit. So I'm going to be there because I am in tune with myself. I could make that decision. So the Date Yourself Program, it's a four-week program, it's an online course and it guides you through these steps. So that is a great way to start your self-worth journey and to start using these practices. You can take this course whenever you want and now is the perfect time to take it.
So if you're ready to give yourself the love and care you deserve, if you are ready to not have triggers run your life and to have some of the tools and the strategies that are going to help you navigate life's challenges, the Date Yourself Course is for you. You can learn more about it and enroll now at www.unconditionallyworthy.com/date yourself. So I hope that me sharing my experience of navigating a trigger, right? Helps you to feel less alone. When you get triggered [00:30:00] it helps you to know that triggers don't make you unworthy. And that when you know your worth and when you know the skills and the tools to navigate triggers life becomes so much easier. So this is the last episode of Season 5, as I mentioned. As always, thank you for listening. Thank you for sharing it and I would so appreciate it if you would take the time to leave a rating or review in whatever app you are using to listen to or watch this podcast.
If you're watching on YouTube, it really helps to give me feedback about the show, to know what you're liking and also it helps other people to find the show. So please take a few moments to leave a review, leave a five-star rating, leave a review, tell me what's helpful about the show. The next season of the podcast is going to be released on September 5th. So take this summer, take a break, re-listen to one of the 84 episodes, right? There's so many episodes, it's a great opportunity to go back and listen to episodes again and get ready for the next season, season six in September. If you have a guest idea, if you have a topic idea, I'd love for you to share it with me. You can email me to info@dradiagooden.com or DM me on Instagram or on LinkedIn. I'm at Dr. Adia Gooden. And also stay tuned because there's a little bonus, a special bonus episode that's going to come out in a couple of weeks. So stay tuned for that. But other than that, I will see you in September and have an amazing, amazing summer.
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When you have the skills and tools to deal with your triggers, life becomes so much easier. If you have trouble navigating your triggers or you simply want a better, healthier way to heal and move forward after being triggered, this episode is for you.
In this solo episode of Unconditionally Worthy, I share what I do when I’m triggered. Yes, I’m human and I still get triggered every once in a while. Listen in as I share the story of a recent time I got triggered (spoiler: I felt excluded) and how I responded.
A long-time trigger for me has been feeling excluded. When I feel excluded, I start feeling a tightness in my chest. My anxious mind starts wondering if anybody actually likes me and wants to hang out with me. My mind starts being scared of being alone. Can you relate?
On many occasions throughout my life, I’ve felt left out. As a kid, I either wasn’t invited to parties or I wasn’t included in friend groups I wanted to be part of. As an adult, I oftentimes didn’t feel prioritized by guys I was dating. I didn’t feel missed or cared about when I didn’t go to events. This led me to make up stories in my mind about being an unworthy and unlovable outsider. In reality, none of that is true!
I’ve done the work in therapy and through my self-worth journey to heal this wounded part of myself and realize the truth. The truth is that I am loved, I am worthy, people do want to be around me, and it’s okay if I’m not everybody’s favorite person. I’m still worthy. However, I can still get triggered by certain things! Sometimes, no matter how much work and healing we do, we’ll still feel triggered. Even if we know how people really feel about us or that situations aren’t make or break, we can still have triggers.
That’s why it’s important to come up with a strategy or plan for working through our triggers. The key is to have compassion for ourselves when we get triggered without beating ourselves up about how we’re feeling. It’s really helpful to acknowledge our triggers and feelings and kindly talk ourselves through them.
Once you know how to deal with your triggers in a healthy, constructive way, you’ll no longer get lost or consumed in them. It’ll become easier to identify, process, and move on from things that trigger you and recognize the truth behind the situation.
What I Do When I’m Triggered:
I acknowledge what I’m feeling without beating myself up about the situation and my feelings.
I share my feelings with a loved one (oftentimes my husband) and ask for reassurance and encouragement. A second point of view can sometimes help you gain a new perspective.
I don’t let myself make up negative stories about myself and whoever/whatever is triggering me.
I remind myself of the truth/reality of the situation.
I practice self-compassion and offer myself kindness and encouragement. I remind myself that I am worthy and lovable.
I don’t let my trigger get in the way of my joy and fun! I pause, make decisions that are aligned with reality, and practice patience.
Do you have a trigger that’s difficult to overcome? Try these tips next time you get triggered and see how they can make a difference!
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